So you’ve met someone new. This person seems pretty nice, so you decide to ask them out (or conversely, you accept their invitation). The first date is an exciting and important moment in any new relationship. First impressions count for a lot, but sadly, many people don’t fully realize this, or simply aren’t aware of the many traps you can fall into.
Nikki’s story about her first date this weekend will leave you wondering… Should he have kept his mouth shut about this ONE UNUSUAL BELIEF HE HOLDS? Listen below and see for yourself:
BONUS: since first dates are tricky, we’ve listed a few of the “classic” taboos that perhaps deserve to be treated with care… Do you think these should be avoided on a first date?
Talking about your ex…
Ex-lovers aren’t a taboo subject, especially in a serious relationship. Your lover has plenty of good reasons to want to know what you’ve been through in previous relationships. However, the first date should be exclusively about you!
Talking excessively about yourself…
This may come as a surprise, but this is actually a common mistake. It’s rude and boring for your date to have to listen to a non-stop barrage of information about you. Don’t worry! You must be at least somewhat interesting; otherwise, this person wouldn’t be sitting across the table from you! Now, time to find out if THEY are interesting enough for you. Ask your date at least one question about themselves for each thing you reveal about yourself. That will keep the conversation flowing and interesting for both of you.
Tread carefully around politics, class and religion.
These subjects aren’t “taboo” per se, but if you express your views too strongly, you risk offending your date. Take some time to get to know their stances on things first! You may be surprised to learn which opinions and beliefs you’re able to accept into your life once you’ve established a rapport on a more basic, human level.